Ex-Girlfriends.
Aww fuck no.
That was my reaction when someone directed me to a blog that will remain hidden on myspace.
“It’s been nine years! Can’t she just…”
My friend assured me that no, she won’t stop. She’s like a manic depressive, OCD, terminator that’s been cursed with vampirism. Someone has to put a stake through her heart before she could just let things go.
And he said “that would be if you were lucky. It could be worse, she could have your number. No wait she probably already does have that, she could be calling you, that would be worse.”
Maybe I am over reacting, but every time I hear something new from her I can’t help but feel filthy. Maybe because I know it’s a matter of time before something ticks down in that skull (that’s filled with crazy), and she’ll start the dreaded letter writing campaign.
I wish the voices in her head would just tell her cut the shit out.
But that’s not going to happen, so fine I’ll respond to one of her stupid posts about me. My comments are in bold, and italic
Hope For The Bitter…
Current mood:
pensive
Batshit insane
I have to dedicate this entry to someone I once knew many years ago when I was young, naïve, and extremely possessive.
Fun fact, one day me and my parents went to the King of Prussia mall. I made the mistake of not informing Ami right before, she literally called my house over 20 times in a period of 4 hours.
Because of how possessive I was, it made me selfish and well, quite frankly, very hard to deal with as a person when it came to he and I. I can’t lie… I’ve been reading his entries again.
Again? Translation : I never stopped, I need to know if he writes about me, or even thinks of me in any other way but disgust.
I think it’s because I will always feel curious about his life. It’s only natural to want to know how your high school sweetheart is doing these days.
Do you guys think this is a legal basis for a restraining order or something?
Especially if you were the one who broke his heart. There was a time in my life where I blamed myself for his bitterness. But, I realized, that’s just taking too much credit. I’m not that powerful, and the last thing I ever wanted to do was turn him into one of the bitterest people he portrays himself to be in his entries.
Blah, blah, blah - ex gf shit
I was happy for a while when reading his entries because I found that he met someone, and fell in love again. I always believed there was a light at the end of the tunnel, and though most, especially him, would say it was only the headlight of a freight train rushing towards him while he breathes the last breaths of his life, I truly believed it was a light of hope.
Oh wait I thought you JUST started reading my blog? That’s funny me and the girl have been dating since april. If you’re going to mimic me dummy get it right. I would say it’s like going on a really good date, drinking a little too much, and then waking up in a strange motel in a bathtub full of ice, with a kidney missing.
Duh!
I know it sounds rather fluffy. But, there are a lot of reasons why I read his entries to this day. For one, he is one hell of a writer. Always was. At least I believed him to be. He never quite believed he was. At least that is the impression he gave me throughout the four years and one month of our relationship. Yeah, I even remember how long. I remember the night, the time, and the date. As screwy as it sounds, I ended it on April 1st of 1998. It was 1:13 AM. It was not pretty and there was a lot of anger on his part. But, I don’t have to delve into that tale again. Let’s just say I couldn’t blame him. Despite the fact that I never cheated on him, it still hurt him. In the end I think I did him a huge favor. He was able to finally spread his wings and live. That’s how I feel about it anyway.
I is awesome. I is awesome Captain Kirk Style. Always was (thanks psycho ex for proving it!!!)
However as screwy as it sounds, you have the date wrong. It was 1999, the rest I’ll assume is right.
You’re right though it wasn’t pretty. I had to hear for the month or two after everyday “I don’t want you to hate me, why do you hate me, why do your friends and family hate me? They liked me before I dumped you.”
It is always funny how she mentions the cheating thing. Although I never received said proof, I did find a witness later on. I can’t really blame her though, I think another year I definately would have cheated on her, and she’s the only girlfriend I ever regretted not cheating on.
Although I suppose I did spread my wings and live, of course it was easier after the 124 pound anchor that bitched me out about everything, and heard voices in it’s head was cut loose.
That’s how I’ll always feel about it.
I read his latest entry. It was bitter. (or sad) I couldn’t blame him. I’m not sure he ever wonders onto my MySpace site. (not unless I’m forced too)
If he does, I hope that if he reads this entry he knows that it’s going to be OK. Though distance is a stormy ocean between two people in love, it is also a test of the heart. (shut up, you cheapen my emotions by even thinking that sentence)
I know that sounds easy coming from me. I live with my boyfriend and will actually be celebrating four years together tomorrow. (I thought this post was about me? Oh no you aren’t selfish still)
February 8th is when we met in 2004. The thing is I remember distance. I did it twice. (I think I’m one, I’m hoping the cops found the other guy’s body that she ditched in the woods by now)
It was extremely difficult, and while I believed myself to be strong, I really wasn’t. (You ARE worthless and weak [fuck i’ve been dying to say that for years!])
I had a hard time when my boyfriend would go on his ten day vacations in the summer and I couldn’t go because of work. It was like going through a drug withdrawal (Fun fact 2, she used to say the same thing about me. I’m pretty sure I can use this in a paper or something, addiction, relationships and codependence) , and that was only ten days!
I’m willing to bet he loved those vacations so fucking much, and then when he stepped off the plane and when he saw an emotionally disturbed girl with a horrible fro there to greet him he died a little each time.
Peter, you will be OK. I believe that you will.
Jess you hear that? That crazy one I told you about says we’re going to be fine! Thank god, we should cancel that appointment we had with Dr Phil
I know that means nothing to you coming from me. I’m the last person you want to hear from, and especially the last person who you could ever want to wish you well. (There are others, but yeah)
But, I know you’ll be OK. It may feel like the end of the world…(not really) hell, it may even BE the end of YOUR world. (no it isn’t) If this is the love you deserve. The love you have longed for despite your bitterness with the four letter word, she will return home to you.
Yet again, stop cheapening my emotions, and while you’re at it stop even imagining you understand me. However there is a Freudian slip there. See if you can find it. I’ll wait… … … find it? She used the word “if”, “If this is the love you deserve”, by using that particular word choice it actually shows hostility still. I knew this whole “oh I hate no one, I forgive you” crap was another act. Of course I could be digging too deep, but in reality I’m probably only scratching the surface of crazy.
I’ve been listening to this song on my iPod by VNV Nation called “Distant (Rubicon II)”. For some reason as I was working out at the gym tonight while this song started to play in my ears, I thought about his situation.
The paths that I once tread
have all but gone.
Only embers now smoulder
where bridges once burned.
I feel alive and yet I fear
what may happen now.
I know I can’t return.
Yug, enough of that shit. It goes on, for a bunch of paragraphs. I’m sparing you trust me.
That song just reminds me of him, and when I think about his latest entry, I know that the song was meant for me to hear tonight. I usually just skip it because it is a very mellow, melancholy song. But I had to listen because I was meant to…
GOD IS IN MY EX GIRLFRIENDS IPOD!!!!!! The lord speaketh through the shuffle function. Bless ye playlists, for the prophet Ami to interpret through chemical imbalanced wisdom! Hallelujah!!! Praise da lawd!!!!!
I think the bitterness I experienced. I remember my best friend from the city feeling so relieved the day I fell in love again because she thought I would never allow myself to feel after my experiences
I know that made you sound stupid somehow, I’m trying to pin point it. I think it’s the best friend from the city part. She was probably thankful, because you wouldn’t shut up about how awesome I am, and how you blew it.
I told my boyfriend that I am now thankful to God that I experienced such pain and that I wouldn’t change it because I was supposed to go through it.
To which he probably thinks he got you because of something really bad he did in his life, and now he is trying to make amends
It didn’t mean I had to like it, but I learned and grew from it.
I don’t think you really grew. You sound pretty much the same, except the born again christian bent.
Because of this, I was able to meet the love of my life. The night I finally let go, was the morning when 2004 began, and so did the rest of my life…
The day he started to look for an escape route, January 3rd 2004. There’s probably a tunnel under the bed that’s half-way to staten island. It’s not letting go if you’re still writing about me, and going through my blog you dumb bitch!!!
To everyone and anyone who is hurting, bitter, angry, and hateful because their hearts have been ripped from their chests and smashed against the wall too many times: It’s going to be OK. You can always start again, only this time you will be wiser, patient, and most of all…stronger…
Says the girl who still blogs about her ex-bf 9 years removed. My advice? There is no hope. Ami’s current should run screaming for the hills, he will face nothing but misery. She probably robbed all ambition from him. He probably looks at her periods in boredom instead of sympathy. His family hates her, his friends are dropping away one by one, and she’s not noticing because she’s bleeding him. This fucked up bitch is bleeding him dry of everything that makes him human. Look buddy I don’t know your name or who you are, but I mean this from the bottom of my heart.
RUN. Just run as fast as you can, kick her out of the apartment, and start over. If you don’t, it will get worse trust me.
Ami has a thing with poetry. One day someone told her she was talented, and she just wouldn’t stop. I think there are probably 100 chapbooks about me. The below poem is an original piece of work. I don’t want even want to look at it to mock it, so I’ll leave you the first paragraph.
Standing
[September 1999]
Eyes betray the soul and bear it’s thinking.
Beyond words they say so many things to me.
A stranger here reborn it seems
awaking wonders deep in me.
If nothing’s ventured nothing’s gained
so I must seize the day.
God that was horrible wasn’t it? But this is how it went down,.
Oct 25 1994, I stayed late in the school library. It was my 17th birthday. My house life wasn’t that great. I guess it was a combination of teenage angst, growing pains, and parents scared for my future. At 4:30 I caught the late school bus home. I bumped into my friend Ron Andersen, with him was a boisterous girl from queens named Ami. We ended up hanging out a lot at school. Mostly because she wouldn’t leave me alone, and I felt sorry for her.
March of 1995 I was invited to her sisters bday, and me and Ami became boyfriend and girlfriend. We slow danced to the pixies “bird dream of the olympus mons”
Time passes, and four years later in a basement apartment in queens, we broke up. Sometimes I think it was meant to happen like that. That I needed to learn how toxic people can be. Then when I look at my old camera’s, and think about the other girls I should have asked out back in the day, and I realize how lovely, warm, and fun Jessica is. I then wish I went straight home for some birthday cake, and to unwrap a present.
